Ready to feel lighter and more grounded in your relationship?
(especially if you've done a lot of inner work and want support feeling calmer and trusting yourself along the way)
Something I hear all the time is this...
People feel like they’ve learned a lot.
They’ve built self-awareness around their anxious patterns.
They “know the things.”
And yet, they still struggle to actually change in the day-to-day of their relationship and life.
They understand ideas and concepts intellectually... but nothing really shifts in how they think, feel, or respond in the moment.
Which leads to a million things swirling around in their head (aha moments, tools, tips)... but no clear way to bring any of it into real life.
Maybe you can relate?
Maybe you’d describe yourself as someone who’s done a lot of inner work (reading the books, listening to the podcasts, even going to therapy)...
...but you still find yourself overthinking, doubting yourself, or feeling emotionally triggered in certain moments of your relationship and life.
If that’s you, I want you to know:
There is nothing wrong with you.
For many people, these patterns aren’t a sign that they need to do more, try harder, or fix themselves...
They’re a sign that there may be another way to work with what's happening.Â
Here’s what I mean.
Instead of trying harder to out-think your overthinking, you can learn to relate to your thoughts with more space and less urgency.Â
Instead of doing more to “get rid of” your triggers, you can learn how to respond to your emotions differently and see them as a cue to get curious, not as a threat to fight back against.Â
My coaching packages create the space to slow this process down, get out of your head, and bring what you've already learned into real, day-to-day moments in your relationship and life.
Hi, I'm Sarah
And I know firsthand how confusing it can be to have a life that looks good on paper and still feel like you can’t fully relax into it.
For a long time, my inner world sounded something like this:
"Why am I like this?" "Why can’t I just enjoy my relationship and life?" I’m so tired of overthinking everything." "I feel like I’m doing something wrong."
When I found myself in a healthy, loving relationship, I went into overdrive... constantly checking if something was "off" so I wouldn't end up divorced like my parents.
There was this underlying pressure for me to "get it right."
So I analyzed everything... my feelings, my reactions, his behavior.
Always checking:Â "am I doing this right?"
I couldn’t relax unless I felt like everything was how I needed it to be.
I thought that if I picked a great partner, I’d finally feel safe.
Instead, I felt overwhelmed and so far off from the peace I was chasing.
At one point, in the middle of a spiral, I even told my boyfriend (now husband!!) that I wasn’t sure I loved him the same anymore. He responded with so much steadiness that it stopped me in my tracks.
It became clear: this wasn’t really about him. And it wasn’t even about the relationship. It was about the way I related to myself.
I didn’t trust myself. I felt behind. I felt like something was always a little off—and that it was up to me to fix it.
That moment was a wake-up call for me...
I realized I wasn't broken, I just didn't know how to feel okay without everything outside of me going "right" or how I thought it "should" go.Â
Over time, I learned:
How to respond to my thoughts and emotions differently.
How to interrupt spirals without fighting myself in the process.
How to build self-trust instead of constantly second-guessing.
Not just in my relationship—but in my life.
That was over five years ago.
Today, my relationship is still imperfect — because all relationships are. And my life is still human. I still have anxious thoughts sometimes. I still have moments where old patterns try to pull me back in.
But the difference is this:
I know how to move through these moments without thinking my marriage is doomed.Â
I respond with more curiosity, and less panic. With more compassion, and less self-criticism. With more trust, and less urgency to "figure it all out."
The shift didn’t happen overnight. But it began with a decision to stop asking, “What’s wrong with me?” and start asking, “What is this trying to teach me?”
If you feel stuck in your head…
If you’re exhausted from always analyzing, improving, or trying to get it right…
If you want more peace—in your relationship, and in yourself...
You’re not broken. And you’re not alone.
There is another way to live with your thoughts, emotions, and relationships. And you don’t have to figure it out by yourself.
Right now, it may feel like you only have two options:
Option 1:
Stay caught in familiar patterns—overthinking, second-guessing yourself and your relationship, or feeling like something is always a little off—without knowing how to change it.
Option 2:
Pull away or consider leaving, hoping that a different relationship—or a different situation—will finally bring the relief you’re craving.
This kind of either/or thinking can create a lot of pressure. Pressure to figure it out or make the “right” decision, even when you don’t fully trust yourself or feel clear.
But there is another option. And it’s one most people don’t realize is available.
Option 3:
Learn how to move through anxious moments with more ease, instead of getting pulled into the same spirals again and again.
And here’s the important part:
This option doesn’t require you to be perfect.
It doesn’t require your partner to be perfect.
And it doesn’t require you to have everything figured out.
Just a willingness to slow things down and try a different approach than "fixing," analyzing, and trying to keep everything under control.Â
In private coaching, I help people feel more like themselves in their relationships—calmer, clearer, and more self-trusting.
This isn’t about “fixing yourself”—because you’re not broken.
It’s about learning how to show up in ways you feel proud of, and having support as you practice responding differently in real-life moments.
Together, we’ll gently explore what’s been keeping you stuck, and create a way forward that feels supportive, realistic, and grounded in your actual day-to-day life.
By the end of our time together…
✔ You’ll feel more confident responding to triggering moments, instead of feeling overwhelmed or spiraling
✔ You'll begin trusting yourself and your decisions even when things feel uncertain
✔ You'll practice being kinder to yourself (like you'd treat your best friend) instead of feeling like you need to always get it right
✔ You'll feel more connected to your partner, with a deeper appreciation of who they are (not just what bothers you)
âś” You'll better understand what you need—and how to communicate those needs without as much resentment or guiltÂ
Your fears may not disappear completely—because fear is part of being human.Â
But you'll know how to move through fear without letting it run the show.Â
Private coaching is for you if…
- You want more calm, clarity, and self-trust in your relationship
- You’re ready to stop getting pulled into the same mental spirals when things feel hard
- You want to feel capable of handling uncertainty, instead of fearing it
- You want to be present in your relationship, not constantly in your head about it
- You want support navigating life and relationship challenges with more steadiness
Private coaching may not be a fit if…
- You're looking for someone to tell you whether you should stay or go (this work is about building your self-trust)
- You’re hoping to eliminate anxiety entirely or "fix" yourself (anxiety is part of being human)
- You're wanting to process deep or unresolved relational trauma (therapy is often best for this type of support)
- You're not open to self-reflection or trying a different approach
Imagine being able to…
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Trust yourself more in your relationship—even when things feel uncertain
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Move through anxious or triggering moments with less spiraling and more steadiness
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Feel more present and connected, instead of constantly analyzing
- Catch yourself seeing your partner with fresh eyes—feeling more love, gratitude, and appreciation for who they are
This is the kind of work we do together in private coaching.
Here's what you receive in my private coaching experience:
Private coaching sessions
Our sessions are a space to slow things down and look at what’s coming up—without judgment or pressure to fix yourself.
I’ll coach you by asking questions to help you build trust in your decisions. Together, we'll gently question beliefs + habits that no longer serve you.Â
You’ll leave sessions with practical ways to respond differently in your relationship and life...support you can actually use between sessions.Â
There's a clear structure to our work together, while still leaving room for your personal goals and what you're navigating week-to-week.Â
Access to my Most Popular Resources
You’ll also receive access to the resources that supported me—and many others—in moving from constant doubt and overthinking to more clarity and self-trust.
This includes lifetime access to the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit, a 21-day guide to help you understand your patterns and respond to them more intentionally.Â
You'll also have access to three recorded trainings:Â "is it anxiety or incompatibility?" "is it anxiety or intuition?" "is it anxiety or am I settling?"
These are here to support you alongside our sessions—not to give you more to “figure out,” but to reinforce what we’re working on together.
Voice + text messagingÂ
You’ll have access to voice and text support outside of sessions during my Office Hours (Monday–Thursday).
This gives you a place to reach out when something comes up in real time—whether you’re feeling unsure or just want help responding differently in the moment.
I’ll offer reflections, reframes, or simple guidance you can use right away so "the work" starts showing up in your real, day-to-day life.
If you're ready to work together, the next step is choosing the level of support that fits you best...
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I offer two package options, depending on the level of support you’re looking for right now. My signature experience is 4 months; designed to give you space to slow down and create meaningful change over time. I also offer 2-month support if that feels like a better starting point for you.
Both options include the same style of coaching and can be paid in monthly installments.
Trust yourself to move forward when you feel ready.
